Embracing Change and Outgrowing What No Longer Fits

Lately, I’ve been feeling the need for change. It’s a familiar feeling, one I’ve experienced throughout my life. Growing up, we moved around a lot, and I think that ingrained a sense of impermanence in me—a reminder that life is fluid and growth often comes through change. Every 2-3 years, I find myself itching for something new, something different. But as a parent, those decisions aren’t as simple as they once were. Now, every choice I make affects my family, especially my child, and that adds another layer of reflection to this process.

This desire for change often coincides with outgrowing the people around me. Perhaps it’s just my personality—my need to grow, evolve, and challenge myself mentally. I’ve noticed that I tend to outgrow people and relationships when I reach a new stage in my personal growth. In my younger years, this left me feeling isolated and even guilty. I would wonder, What’s wrong with me? How could I feel lonely and disconnected from people I used to be so close to?

But over time, I’ve come to realize it’s not about blame or fault. It’s about growth. Some people are completely content with who they are and where they are in life, and I respect that deeply. But I’ve accepted that I’m not that person. I crave growth. I need change. I see life as a constant evolution, and that’s a part of who I am.

Letting Go of the Guilt

What used to feel like a flaw—this need to move on, to change, to outgrow—now feels like a strength. I’ve stopped blaming myself for feeling this way and started embracing it. Outgrowing people or places doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them, or me. It just means my path is leading me somewhere else. And while others may not understand my need to keep moving forward, I’ve realized that I don’t need their understanding. What matters is that I honor what I need to become the best version of myself.

Creating Space for What’s Next

As I let go of old relationships, I find myself looking forward to the next chapter. I’m excited about the new friendships I’ll build and the opportunities that will come with embracing change. The people in my life now will always have a place, but I’ve learned to be intentional about how and with whom I spend my time. Time is valuable, and so am I.

Choosing growth doesn’t mean cutting people off or forgetting your past—it means creating space for new energy and new connections that align with who you’re becoming. It’s not about abandoning anyone; it’s about honoring your journey and letting others honor theirs.

My Reminder for This Week

This week, I’m choosing to embrace this feeling of change instead of fighting it. I’m reminding myself that growth is natural, and it’s okay to outgrow the people, places, and things that no longer fit. It doesn’t make me difficult or selfish—it makes me human.

If you’ve been feeling the need for change, remember that it’s a sign of growth. Don’t feel guilty for wanting something new or different. The people who are meant to be with you on your journey will support you, and the ones who don’t understand weren’t meant to go with you. Change is hard, but it’s also a gift. It’s what allows us to become the person we’re meant to be.

Here’s to choosing growth, embracing change, and stepping into the next chapter with pride and purpose.

Xo,
—Femme Unleashed