Owning Your Truth, Even When You’re Misunderstood
There’s something unique about being a strong, independent, and authentic woman. When you embrace who you truly are and stand confidently in your values, it inevitably creates waves. People may misunderstand you, misjudge you, or even cast you as the “villain” in their narratives. This week, I experienced another chapter of that reality—facing judgment based on who people think I am, rather than who I know myself to be.
It’s one of those things you come to expect when you choose to live authentically. This time, it came through a friendship fallout, with assumptions made about me that didn’t align with my intentions or character. My initial reaction was to feel guilty, wondering if perhaps I had unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings. It’s natural to question yourself, especially when you care about those involved. But after reflecting, I realized that sometimes, a person’s hurt isn’t about you—it’s about them, their place in life, and their perceptions.
I’ve come to terms with being seen as the “bad guy” in someone else’s story. It’s not an easy realization, but there’s power in accepting that you can’t control how others view you. Their judgment, however painful, is a reflection of where they are in life, and it’s often based on who they think you are or what they assume you’ve done. We can’t always change those narratives, but we can choose to remain true to ourselves.
Staying True to My Values
This experience reminded me why I started Femme Unleashed—to give voice to women who choose authenticity over acceptance and strength over conformity. I stood by my values, even when it would’ve been easier to change myself to avoid friction. It’s a powerful thing, to remain loyal to yourself, even when it means others may misinterpret your intentions. And that’s where true strength lies—as a woman, as a friend, as a leader.
The reality is, not everyone will understand your path or see your intentions clearly. As women, we often carry the weight of others’ expectations and judgments. But I’m learning that being misunderstood isn’t a failure; it’s a testament to living authentically. When we commit to being real, we naturally break out of the molds others want to place us in—and not everyone will be comfortable with that.
Finding Strength in “Being the Villain”
Over time, I’ve realized that strength doesn’t come from fitting in or being liked; it comes from honoring your truth, even if it means being misjudged. So, yes, I’m okay with being the villain in someone else’s story if it means I’m honoring myself. I’ve come to accept that their version of me isn’t the full picture. My worth isn’t based on how others perceive me but on the values I stand by.
For any woman reading this who feels similarly—who feels the weight of judgment or the sting of being cast as “too much,” “too bold,” or simply “too different”—I see you. Know that you’re not alone, and that staying true to who you are is a strength, not a flaw.
A Reminder for the Week Ahead
This week, I’m choosing to focus on what I know to be true about myself, rather than others’ perceptions. I encourage you to do the same. When judgment comes, or when others misunderstand your intentions, remember that it’s okay. It’s okay to be true to yourself, even if that means others may not understand.
The path of authenticity isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Embrace the narrative you’re writing for yourself. Let go of the need to explain, to defend, or to justify who you are. If that means being seen as the “bad guy” in someone else’s story, so be it. As long as you’re true to your values, you’re exactly where you need to be.
With strength, resilience, and authenticity, we keep moving forward.
Xo,
—Femme Unleashed
